Reviews for Raising a Self-disciplined Child : Help Your Child Become More Responsible, Confident, and Resilient

Kirkus Reports Reviews 2007 July
Parenting techniques for instilling self-discipline--and thereby a large degree of happiness and self-worth--in children.

Self-discipline gives children a chance to stop and generate strategies, consider alternatives and analyze the likely outcomes of specific actions. It fosters responsibility and accountability, both hallmarks of the shift from immaturity to maturity. The engendered sense of personal control helps children face difficult tasks, learn to reflect beforehand, organize their lives and take mistakes in stride as they learn from them. Critical to this process is authoritative parenting. "Parents with an authoritative style demonstrate warmth and involvement with their children," the authors write. "They offer emotional support but are also firm in establishing guidelines, limits, and expectations." They are also respectful, giving due consideration of the child's feelings no matter how outlandish they may seem at the time. Throughout the book, the authors give real-time examples of their theories at work--not staged scenarios, but easily identifiable situations that could be imported wholesale into many confusing or vexing moments of parenting.

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Library Journal Reviews 2007 August #1

Resilient people can cope with what life throws their way; parents can help children develop a resilient mindset, an important aspect of which is self-discipline. Brooks and Goldstein (coauthors, Raising Resilient Children ) write and speak often about resilience. Here, they advise parents on teaching children self-discipline, an ability to control oneself and understand the effects of actions. Like many parent educators, the authors emphasize that discipline is teaching, not punishing, and is most effective in an environment of empathy and unconditional love. Furthermore, recognizing a child's strengths, or "islands of competence," encourages success and therefore results in better behavior. They illustrate their suggestions with numerous case studies of families they have helped, right down to the details on helpful phrases to use with children in certain situations. Nothing here is groundbreaking (e.g., authoritative parenting works best, children need to learn from mistakes), but the examples of families who achieve success could reassure frustrated parents. Recommended for larger parenting collections.--Janet Clapp, Athens-Clarke Cty. Lib., GA

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Publishers Weekly Reviews 2007 July #2

Brooks and Goldstein (Raising Resilient Children ) note that a key component of resiliency is self-discipline. It's so essential, in fact, that the authors devote their new text entirely to fostering its development in children. They begin by pointing out that discipline is a teaching process. A disciplinarian, they state, is not a parent who punishes or intimidates, and the goal is not to produce compliant, obedient kids. Rather, the objective is to keep children safe, help them learn self-discipline and become responsible for their own actions and choices. The authors reveal that spanking and other authoritarian methods work against this process. As an alternative, they offer a number of approaches parents can take to instill self-discipline and help children appropriately control their own lives, such as offering choices, letting kids come up with solutions and giving positive feedback. The authors employ a series of detailed case studies to illustrate (regrettably, these are tediously heavy-handed and needlessly drawn out). Still, the book provides practical tools for creating healthier families and self-disciplined kids. Parents who are weary of nagging and threatening will no doubt welcome the authors' tried and true tactics. (Sept.)

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